How to feel sexy when sex is the last thing on your mind and why older women should keep trying
Are there beautiful ‘sexy’ older women? Feeling like we’re beautiful while we’re older, sexy women is hard too! Sometimes everything seems to shut down, doesn’t it? There is a certain boredom that sets in and we just don’t feel like embracing sexuality in our daily lives. However, it is part of us, whether we ignore it or not.
How to feel sexy when things feel flat. It’s a daunting subject when you’re comfortable with who you ‘think’ you are at fifty, sixty or even seventy. Why bother to think sometimes, isn’t it? In recent years we often lose touch with that side of ourselves. Wrinkles, extra pounds and cellulite that have settled, children are long gone, and life just changes. Our personalities are often created by things outside of us and we embrace them because they are pleasurable, but also because they feel safe and the next online experience.
Many women say that after the age of fifty they feel a certain self-confidence and consider themselves free… at last. I think that’s true, but I also think that sexuality is left in the background. It just feels easier and maybe safer in a way.
If you pay “too much” attention to the media, your confidences often fall flat, and if you’re like me, you might feel like a figure on a shelf, gathering dust, while the world zooms past you. Television especially tells us that if we are not in our early 20s, we are past the age of desirability. We are steeped in the concept that men ‘only’ look at young women and that’s the way men are.
There’s no denying that men are visual, but I don’t think ‘everyone’ is dumb. My God, I hope not!
We are sexual beings and our bodies are designed to feel pleasure, it is who we are and to deny that part is to deny a part of our own identity, closing it off and believing what the media tells us.
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So let’s feel sexy (again)!!
How is the question in question.
Personally, I think it’s a state of mind, yes, a simple mindset. Here are some ideas:
1) Learn to flirt again! I’m not ready to be put on the shelf! No way! I embrace the idea of feeling sexy while speaking in a somewhat flirtatious way. Do you remember flirting? Don’t worry, I’m not suggesting you start getting close to your friends’ husbands, don’t get me wrong. I’m suggesting that flirting with the idea of feeling sexual and being ‘playful’ and ‘girly’ can be fun and not so out of the box. Create that ‘attitude’ and it will become you.
2) Consider changing your hair. That’s a fantastic way to reinvent yourself and beat boredom. Maybe a little more so that the breeze can touch the ends of your locks, reminding you that the wind is as free as possible.
3) Reconsider your wardrobe and get the hell out of Sears!
4) Exercise, diet and do it for YOU!
5) Get your toes done, even if it’s every six months.
6) Reconsider your makeup. Do you still use it the same way you did when you were in high school? It sounds funny, but you know many are.
7) Take care of your walk… connect with that ‘elegant’ side and reconsider your step.
8) Reconsider your path through life… YOU are important and your sexuality is a genuine part of who you are as a woman. Be the rainbow you long to meet.
Feeling sexy as an older woman is right at your fingertips… It’s an attitude.