Relationship

My kids don’t drive me crazy

As a homeschooler, when you see me in public, you will probably see one to five of my children next to me. It doesn’t matter if it’s 10:00 am on a Wednesday at the grocery store or 11:30 am in a busy doctor’s office. The children are always with me.

What puzzles me is the reaction of the adults we come into contact with during the day.

Many are shocked that I am wearing ironed clothes and combing my hair. Most think I should go crazy.

Breaking news

My kids don’t drive me crazy.

(most of the time)

I always have 1-5 kids (ages 8-20) by my side, no matter where I go. They are my friends. I am hurt beyond words!

I find my children to be amazing people. Unique, creative and interesting.

I to wish to spend time with my boys. They are quirky, fun and entertaining.

I love being the one to find out about all those crazy ‘childhood imaginations’. Why should you be in the dark about what brings you joy?

I appreciate that my children work side by side with me to manage our home. They understand that we are a team.

Family is the focal point of my children’s lives.

My children spend their time with people of different age groups and can easily relate to almost anyone. It’s a pleasure to be around.

I spend so much time with my kids that they are not clingy or needy.

I don’t feel like I’m missing out on his childhood. I am there to witness the moments of quality encapsulated in the quantity of time.

If my children are suffering, they come to me. They know I can trust myself.

If my children are afraid, they come to me. They know I’ll reassure them.

My children do not question my desire to be a part of their lives.

I’m “all in”.

Why do children drive their parents crazy?

They are not used to having their children around; they are usually at school or daycare.

Tea heart of your children’s lives you live far away from them.

During the school day, children laugh, cry and wonder.

At the end of the day, parents ask their children, “What did you do today?”

The children say: “Nothing.” They don’t know how to relate to each other.

With working parents, public school and extracurricular activities. Families shuffle from one destination to another, often stressing that children can’t find their shoes, backpacks or sports equipment. Families are full of anxiety.

Children take advantage of their parents’ time. They need attention. When parents and their children live away from each other all day, they try to make the most of their quality time. you rarely get quality time without amount hour. While special moments can be created, spontaneous moments are lost.

They don’t know their children the same way they would if they spent all their time together. This is a quantity thing. Best friends are wanted. They invest the best in each other. Next to our spouses, our children should make the most of us.

School is the central point of a child’s life.

Children spend most of their time surrounded by children of their own age, so they do not relate easily to people of other ages.

They believe that “me time” is essential to daily life. (I think “we time” is of the essence. My kids too)

Bottom line?

I believe that our society has been seriously deceived. Our children should not be brought into a classroom where they are surrounded by their peer group and forced to receive information that does not inspire them to learn more.

I know that homeschooling is not for everyone. Honestly, homeschooling is hard. Very hard.

Parents must do everything possible to refocus their children so that the family is the center, not the school. This may mean turning off the television, giving up sports, and renting an RV. I think kids need to know that their parents are “all in.” It may take a bit of convincing, but our kids need this!

I think parents need a change in mindset.

  • It’s good to be around your children.

  • It’s okay to have many, many, many moments that are unstructured. That’s where quality time lives!!

  • It’s good to cuddle up and read together.

  • It’s good to cook, clean and create with your children by your side.

  • it’s good drag Take your kids to the store, the doctor’s office, and the zoo.

  • It’s good for your children to see you laugh.

  • The children are entertaining.

  • Children are a blessing.

  • Family time is more important than me time. Almost. Forever.

You may be thinking, but you don’t know my children. They want nothing to do with me. You don’t necessarily have to get them out of public school, but your time is running out. This is one of those mountains worth dying on. Your family is everything. Get your family back. It will take time and energy that you don’t think you have, but it’s worth it.

If you know you can’t homeschool your kids, you can still get your family back…

Turn off the television at least one day a week.

I’m not against television, I’m just more interested in my children. Television prevents children from building, creating and speaking. It’s true your home is cleaner and quieter with the equipment on, but at what cost?

Start eating at the table. Restore family dinners. Have the kids help plan and prepare at least one meal a week (or month).

Clear the calendar and set up a Family Game Night.

Wake your kids up early and go watch the sunrise (once a month). Be sure to bring or pick up a delicious breakfast.

Let the kids stay up late and put a telescope in the yard. Sit outside and look at the stars with your children.

Read aloud to your children. It doesn’t matter how old they are. Find a gripping story and stop at a suspension point. Let them enjoy a bowl of popcorn while you read. Do you need some suggestions?

Learn to ask questions that cannot be answered with yes or no.

Learn to wait for children to respond. We can be so busy that we have no patience for our children’s minds to form answers.

Teach your kids to do something difficult: change a tire, use a weed killer, unclog a drain, reprogram a computer, build a fence, ANYTHING. Make this a regular habit.

Expect your children to help around the house. Children need chores, but they are not slaves. Work alongside them. Put them in charge of the background music (maybe just once a week if you can’t digest your options).

Set limits. Children need to know that you will keep them safe. This means different things for each family. You are the father. You set the standards.

TURN OFF YOUR smartphone, laptop, iPad or any screen that takes your eyes away from your children. Make a policy that during your short time together, you will be “ALL IN.”

Turn off the house phone at night. Family time is sacred!

Read a proverb every day to your children. There are 31 Proverbs, so you look at the calendar and you read that Proverb. If you really want your family back, you need more of God. Period. Start where you are. Ask God to help you and start reading your Bible. Proverbs is a good place to start because it is full of incredible wisdom for your family. No, it is not outdated.

Eliminate any activity that does not strengthen your family. This can be VERY difficult. Be honest with yourself. There is no one size fits all family. What I need to cut in my family will be absolutely different for yours. Just be real.

Family time is precious.

Cut expenses. This may seem obvious, but it is not. If you cut your expenses, you can spend more and more time with your family. With a little creative financing, you might even be able to afford to stay home!

Start slowly.

  • Put your kids down and let them know you’re getting your family back.

  • Implement one new habit at a time. If you have older kids, let them pick one thing to change first.

  • Be consistent.

  • Set a reminder on your calendar and reevaluate your efforts at least once a month.

Which mom would you rather be?

The one who loves to be close to her children,

or the one who goes crazy for them?

Manufacture any change necessary to make the right choice.

It may not be easy, but it’s worth it!

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