The advantages and disadvantages of beauty in love relationships, marriage and dating
Who wouldn’t want to be beautiful? What is beauty? Perhaps we have all considered these questions at one time or another. I would choose to be beautiful if given a choice. Based on some of my observations of standard beauty, I know it would give me a competitive edge just like youth. I’ve followed a beautiful woman all day, many days, to see what it’s like to be praised and admired by those who know a beautiful woman. I have watched others to learn the pros and cons of having an attractive appearance.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Anyone could potentially be beautiful according to someone else. Some people prefer blondes. Others prefer tanned skin. Still others prefer tall people. Everyone has their own preferences; however, there are some people who have facial and body proportions that are considered beautiful by most. Those people who tend to fall into the standard beauty category tend to get a lot of extra attention throughout the day.
The attention given to a beautiful woman is to have all eyes on her and to receive many compliments. People will talk to her a lot, offer her free drinks, offer her gifts, ask for her address, ask her out and more. At least this is what I observed while following a beautiful woman around the clock for many days. She received so many compliments that it became annoying even for her. People showered her with many compliments for all she did. While she was doing her job search, her potential employers told her they were looking for someone who was beautiful. An employer said she wanted to hire someone with a “beautiful presence.” Naturally, the beautiful woman found a job without difficulty.
If being beautiful means that a person can have more friends, find more jobs, and influence others, then obviously it is convenient to be beautiful. Being unattractive means that an individual has some less standardized and more unusual proportions. There are some obvious reasons why a person considered less attractive by most might benefit from striving to attract others. He will benefit from having to do his job better or having to study diligently.
A person who is less attractive will be attractive to someone somewhere. He or she will have to work harder to prove her worth in some areas or studies. To compete with the so-called “beautiful” person, the “average” person will have to go the extra mile. He or she might try to be more polite or creative. You might develop a special talent like art, singing, or a sport. Perhaps the less attractive individual decides to read more books to be appreciated for her knowledge. She could become a learned person to prove herself. Those people who do not consider themselves extremely beautiful will know what it feels like to work hard to achieve something without relying on their appearance. The same could be said of older people who have to work harder to find work than younger people.
The notion of beauty is in the mind, so to some extent it is true to say that people are only as beautiful as they feel. It is important not to become vain or look better than others, no matter how beautiful you feel.
One risk that beautiful people face is that of becoming lazy if they become narcissistic, believing that everyone else should praise them and give them gifts. Everyone needs to retain some humility. If parents and the world constantly praise a man, he will run the risk of believing himself too important. If he becomes narcissistic, he will sit back waiting for others to be his servants. A beautiful woman said that she was “too beautiful for her husband.” She told him that “no one but her would have him because he wasn’t very handsome.” Another handsome man refused to work for nine years and continually reminded others how handsome he was. Therefore, he said that his wife’s DNA was inferior and that she should be his servant for that reason. Such are the results of having an overinflated ego by thinking of yourself as the “epitome” of beauty. Not all beautiful women or men become selfish. Many beautiful people don’t have big egos and are considerate of others.
Self-absorption results from having received so many compliments that a man thinks he is extremely handsome. Such people may miss out on studying at university or developing their minds in other ways when they feel they can get by on beauty alone. Unfortunately, no one will be beautiful forever, and it’s worth spending some time learning a skill or learning about the arts and humanities no matter how appealing it might be. No one is so perfect that they don’t benefit from learning for the sake of learning.
Perhaps true beauty is one’s ability to see the inner beauty in the heart of a kind person, regardless of the outer person. Sometimes the happiest relationships are those in which one individual is prettier than the other, but in which love has more to do with the inner values that are shared between two individuals. Who wouldn’t admire the person who has enough inner beauty to be able to see the inner beauty in others? It is true that lasting relationships arise from the kindness between two people despite the beauty problems.
The advantages of beauty include having many opportunities to work, date, get married, and be loved by others. Most people would enjoy those opportunities and the state of being beautiful, but one should never forget that in some cases, having too much beauty and receiving too many compliments leads to becoming arrogant, narcissistic, and selfish. Many women and men, thinking that they can rely solely on their beauty, never reach their intellectual and spiritual potential. Therefore, the author of this article believes that each of us should seek to live humbly, nurture our mind and open it to the possibility that true beauty comes from within. Once we embrace a person’s inner beauty, not outer appearances, we become more adept at relationships, as well as dating, love, and marriage.