You are not broken nor do you need to be fixed, just more self love and acceptance.
In renovation process
You are not broken and you don’t need to fix it.
What you need is self-love and self-acceptance to heal your broken parts, so that they can heal again.
What you are experiencing is an opportunity to grow that may seem broken. In fact, you are shedding your old self to make room for your true self to emerge.
You don’t need any more articles like this to convince you of your worth. While they offer reassurance, they are only a guide because your true essence will emerge when you discard your old self.
Author and speaker Mike Dooley writes, “You don’t need repair or self-help as much as you need self-love and acceptance. When you show yourself unconditional love and compassion, old useless patterns of thinking and behavior naturally begin to fade.”
The anguish, pain, and disappointment she experienced served a purpose; To wake up to your bigger self Unfortunately, many people perceive this as broken, when it is life leaving the door ajar to illuminate the path of your transformation.
“Everything in his life, especially his challenges, is tailor-made to help you see his stories of struggle. Whatever gets in the way, will be the way!” writes Mary O’Malley in: What’s in the way: a practical guide to waking up to life.
You might think: why do I need to be transformed if I am not broken?
This is so you can experience the fullness of your being, which includes: awakening to your highest potential, giving and receiving love, and discovering the essence of your true self.
To begin with, you never broke down, you went through a process of renewal. Sometimes it can look like the pieces have fallen apart because you haven’t seen the whole picture yet. It is similar to looking at the pieces of a puzzle, not realizing how they will be put together.
You have unrealized potential waiting to emerge. You just need to take the next step and trust that you are being guided to merge with your higher self.
Be compassionate to yourself
Don’t be discouraged if life seems chaotic at times. This happens when you pay attention to the fragmented parts instead of seeing how they will come together to form the whole.
They are composed of light and darkness, as each complements the other in a sea of duality.
If you focus on the non-integrated parts, it is likely to be perceived as broken. However, when light and dark merge, they become one like the Yin Yang symbol, representing opposing forces that are complementary and interconnected.
Matt Kahn explains in Whatever comes up, love that – a love revolution that starts with you: “By loving what arises, you discover the deepest understanding of the Universe in the most heart-centered way. As your heart opens, you can see how every circumstance and detail of life has been created just to help you grow. on a spiritual level. “
Similarly, it was the French philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin who said: “We are not human beings who have a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings who have a human experience.”
You are likely to make mistakes, some of which you will regret. However, I invite you not to dwell on your regrets, but to be compassionate with yourself, so that you continue to grow and evolve.
The human spirit seeks to evolve, otherwise you get stuck and stagnant. This is what many experience in middle age when they lose their identity.
Some people spend their entire lives trying to get ready to become perfect to attract others. However, if they are not received in the way they expect, they think something is wrong with them.
I liken it to cleaning the rust off the metal in hopes that it will reveal the beautiful chrome finish underneath. However, when you scrub, you realize that rust is a natural part of metal. By embracing it, you come to appreciate it as a unique feature rather than something to be polished.
“Some of us can accept others right where they are much more easily than we can accept ourselves. We feel that compassion is reserved for someone else, and it never occurs to us to feel it for ourselves,” says Buddhist nun Pema Chodron. in: When things fall apart: tips from the heart for tough times.
You are not broken, but breaking your shell to reveal your best self.
By accepting yourself as you are, you let go of self-hatred and power-robbing thoughts that obscure your true essence.
As a writer and speaker, I have noticed that the same themes have come up in my writing and speeches over the past decade. That’s: suffering results when you resist what is.
This idea is nothing new, but something that the Buddha touched on centuries ago. When we let go of resistance and accept the conditions of our life, what remains is peace and harmony.
Mary O’Malley says, “It is important to understand that you turn your pain into suffering when you endure it.”
Struggle precedes pain and suffering
Let me highlight this idea of releasing resistance through an example that occurred recently.
We experienced a terrible flu season in Australia this year, with many people sick, some requiring hospitalization, and sadly, several people passed away. My family members and I succumbed to the flu, but it took longer to recover because they resisted its symptoms.
I, on the other hand, gave myself completely and stayed in bed for three days without medication. I slept through the entire test and let my body sweat the fever. In three days, I had regained my strength and was feeling considerably better.
I remember my naturopath saying at the time that the disease helps the immune system to practice its resistance to bacteria and viruses. By doing so, it removes the weaker cells that are atrophied and purged from the body. What does not kill you makes you stronger.
The lesson here is: resistance leads to struggle.
Struggle always precedes pain and suffering.
To allow the energy of life to flow through you, let go of your resistance and accept the conditions of life.
You are not broken, so love yourself exactly as you are, allowing the next chapter of your life to unfold.
The psychotherapist David Richo describes in The five things we cannot change and the happiness we find in embracing them: “Our limits to self-acceptance are equal to the limits to our power to activate ourselves. The more we believe in our competence to reconstitute our broken state, the less we feel the fear that keeps us that way. Any event held in both hands combines reality with hope. renewal. That’s what it means to handle something. “
Each new encounter is a catalyst for growth. The past is there for a reason and should not be carried over to the present moment, because it discolors the experience of the present moment.
Give up and trust that life has a plan for you, similar to the natural flow of water finding its own level. Eventually your personal growth will lead you to a wonderful place if you follow the current upstream instead of resisting it.
The key is to have faith in the process because the universe will not abandon you. Sometimes it can seem like this when you are engrossed in pain and suffering. However, this is temporary and will eventually regress.
Let life heal your fragmented parts without dwelling on them longer than necessary.
When the healing and transformation has occurred, you will have merged with the person who was there all the time; your authentic self.