Graphological analysis of handwriting: how to recognize abuse

What is abuse?

Any behavior that provokes fear of violence or isolation, emotional stress or mental anguish. Any behavior that diminishes a person’s sense of identity, dignity, or self-esteem. This includes: threats, insults, humiliation, lack of affection, social isolation, removal of decision-making rights, insults, harassment, intimidation and coercion.

Emotional abuse in contrast to physical abuse is more difficult to recognize because it does not have the obvious signs. A raised hand is physical abuse. Bruises are physical abuse. However, emotional bruising, while sometimes more damaging, is more difficult to identify.

The abusive personality:

Break nearby objects, particularly items that are valuable to you. When in an argument, the abuser tends to cause harm, such as hitting a wall, throwing things.

Confess to having hurt someone; however, he blames that person for making him do it.

Controller- The abuser requires things his way. They are into manipulation through threats and physical force.

Deny blunders: An abuser refuses to claim responsibility for their actions. When you ask him why he said those mean things to you, he’ll tell you “I never did that” or “I have no idea what you’re talking about.”

Shows low self-esteem: Even when self-confidence is low, he tends to behave authoritatively…and this he conveys by demeaning others in order to elevate himself.

Excuses by rationalizing behavior. Instead of feeling sorry, abusers tend to use an excuse or blame for what happened. For example: “I had a rough day, so when you asked me that question, I lost my temper.” Alternatively, “It’s your fault. I wouldn’t have ripped up your photo if you hadn’t gotten in the way.” The abuser rarely takes responsibility.

Exhibits fascination with anything related to violence.

Fighting- An abusive person wants to fight with others. He is excited to see others injured.

Illustrates lack of consideration for others, cruel to animals. He does not show esteem to the elders, he harms children.

Extreme jealousy/possessiveness: An abusive person will ask who you are talking to; he gets jealous when he spends time with the family.

Transfer the anger to yourself even when you are angry with another person. An abuser’s temper is almost out of control. The wave of fury is shown when something triggers it.

Violates boundaries by entering their personal space.

Note: Regardless of how a person writes, they can do or refrain from doing any act they want. The handwriting shows one’s inclination. The stronger one’s bias toward a particular issue, the more likely the person is to act that way, unless he chooses otherwise.

How to recognize abusive behavior:

Handwriting details must be repeated at least three times within fifty words to have any meaning. If two or more of these different signs appear, there is a clear inclination towards abusive behavior.

Extremely pressed t-bars (especially when written down or to the right side of the stem of the t, when there is an extra flow of ink from the pen at the end of a stroke) – Indicates frustration and anger. The more that happens, the faster those writers will lose control over their emotions. They should not be hired as teachers as they will quickly become frustrated and angry with misbehaving children.

Muddy: Sets of strokes that run together like an inkblot – muddy and muddy. Writing that appears thick or has filled in ovals (such as an ‘a’, ‘e’, ​​’o’, etc.) will indicate that all five of the writer’s senses are fully active. They enjoy the pleasures and comforts of life, some even too much. This indicates a jealous, self-indulgent, rude and insensitive person. They usually have a “What’s in it for me?” attitude and strong impulses that the writer often does not stop. They especially like material possessions, luxury, color and textures. Guilt and anxiety are also often present.

Claws: Like a hook, the claw keeps the writer clinging to frustration, shame, and past grievances. His defensive attitude makes it difficult for others to deal with him, as he is constantly worried about protecting his ego. He does not tolerate discussion, opposition and violation of his territory or personal life. Claw-shaped letters indicate bitterness, bad instincts… and claws. A claw coming up from the bottom and over the baseline can be a strong sign of dishonesty and may have been one of the reasons for the name “rogue claw”. It betrays the writer’s insatiable need or hunger to ‘draw to himself’. Its meaning is ‘Take!’ ‘Pounce!’…addressed to all the things that have supposedly been denied. They may include emotional, financial, or physical means of survival as understood by the writer.

Descending Writing: Writing that descends. This shows depression. Although a depressed person may try to withdraw from contact with the environment, this would be difficult for a depressed teacher in a classroom. When challenged with a particularly provocative student, abusive behavior can result.

Strongly hooked writing: It is very difficult to let go. This reveals selfishness and greed. The first letter of a word refers to the writer, the last to his relationships with others, and in this sample there are many hooks in the first (middle) and last letters.

Crooked letters in the lower area: Distorted emotions. The lower zone deals with the basic needs of a person. The confusing script in this area reflects her feelings.

Very angular writing (and without round letters): great aggressiveness and a lot of energy. Uptight, tense, rigid and totally unyielding.

Joel Engel is the author of ‘Graphology at Home’ and ‘Self-Taught Writing Analysis’ published by Penguin Books. http://www.learngraphology.com