How I ruined my chances of getting my ex back

When my ex boyfriend left me, I was devastated. He really wanted it back, but he didn’t know anything about how to make that happen. Instead, I probably did all the things that would make it less likely that it would come back to me.

This is a cautionary tale. If you want to get back with your ex, don’t do the things I did.

I got depressed. Yep. Of course, this is probably the first thing someone does when abandoned. But I took the depression to a whole new level. I did not want to leave my house. I sat and watched TV, stupid reruns that I didn’t even like the first time. I rarely showered so I smelled a bit and my hair looked greasy. I ate nothing but junk food, so I gained 15 pounds. All of this added up to an ugly person, not just on the outside but on the inside as well. Since I wasn’t taking care of myself, I also felt ugly. Who would want someone in this state?

I begged. Oh, I’m ashamed to admit it now, but I begged her to come back with me. I caused a great scene when he broke up with me. But after that, I kept calling him and trying to get him back. This only pushed him further away. Despair is never attractive.

I stalked him. He constantly asked our circle of friends how he was doing and if he was dating someone new. He would pay attention to his MySpace and Facebook accounts to see if there were any changes. He even physically stalked him by passing by his house to see if he was home. I don’t think he’d ever find out, but boy, would I be embarrassed if he did.

Needless to say, I didn’t get it back. Finally he got a new girlfriend and I was devastated. But when I looked at the new girl, I saw that she actually looked a lot like how I used to be. It made me realize how bad I had become and that it wasn’t just my ex-boyfriend who didn’t love me, no one would. After realizing it, I started to focus on myself and improve. My ex caught on and started showing interest again, but by then I wasn’t sure I wanted to be with him.