Sex during courtship and marriage
In this article when I talk about sex I mean sexual relations between a man and a woman. The world today has gone so crazy that sexual relationships are no more honored and respected as they should have been. In most developed countries the level of sexual immorality is so high that it is really cause for concern. I don’t think there is any religion that supports premarital sex, extramarital sex, or any form of sexual immorality. When God created the world, he made the first man and woman and kept them in a beautiful garden to care for and maintain it. He also implored them to multiply and fill the world. Sexual intercourse according to God’s original plan is supposed to be a means of procreation. But today what do we find in the world; adolescents, young people and adolescents practicing premarital sex without fear of consequences.
I do not want to start discussing at length the extent of sexual abuse and immoralities among today’s teenagers because this article is intended for men and mature minds. In this sense, we will be discussing sex during courtship and sex in marriage. Dating Sex – Call it courtship, courtship, friendship, relationship, affair, etc., you are right because these words speak of partnership between two, mostly men and women. Is sexual relations during courtship, friendship or relationship outside of marriage correct? In a concise and direct answer, No.
The Bible says don’t fornicate. In 1 Corinthians 6:18 the bible says “Flee from sexual fornication, No other sin affects the body like this. For sexual sin is sin against your own body.” Any sexual relationship between single people is fornication. Call it what you want to call it, the truth is that if she is not your wife, my boy you are a fornicator and fornication is sin and is not pure before humanity and God. On the other hand, the woman who gives herself to a man who is not married to her is also a fornicator. Most men today say that they cannot marry a woman who they are not sure can satisfy them in her bed, which is why they have sex with her before marriage.
Some say that we are courting each other and that we need to know everything about each other to make sure we are compatible. I’m not against men marrying women they’re compatible with, but sex isn’t the only thing that makes a marriage work after all, you don’t marry her just for sex. Or do you intend to turn her into a sex machine after marriage? Most of the young girls have ruined their destinies and their future due to the word courtship. You give yourself to a man and he makes love to you, then he tells you, I’m sorry, we’re not compatible; I can’t marry you. In the meantime, it has spoiled your femininity and your pride as a woman. Remember that it has not only marred your femininity, it has also led you to sin (fornication) before God.
Extramarital sex: This is another common sin that men and women commit on a daily basis. The Bible says that it is better that we abstain from sexual relations, but where we cannot, we should marry. It is very common today to see married men and women leave their marital homes to have sex with strange men or women. Society abhors this and the Bible calls it sin (adultery). When you are married and still leave your marital home to have sexual relations with another man or woman, you are an adulterer. Another common one these days is the case of married men having sex with young, single women. She calls you her sugar daddy or Aristo and you’re happy.
In this case, the man is an adulterer while the girl is a fornicator and neither society nor God approve of it. On the other hand, you see married women dating young guys who are young enough to be their children and are happy to talk about it openly. She calls herself a sugar mummy and the young man her Gigolo. I pity the young man who does that because he is inviting the wrath of God upon himself. Proverbs 6 verses 27-29 says, “Can a man put fire in his lap and not be burned? Can he walk on hot coals without blistering his feet? So it is with a man who sleeps with another man’s wife. He who hugs her will not go unpunished”.
Sex in Marriage: God ordained marriage and fully supports the institution of marriage. As I said before, God created man and woman and gave them dominion over everything in the world so as to procreate and multiply the world. Sexual intercourse in marriage is the means through which God’s mandate for procreation is carried out. Also in 1 Corinthians 7:3 the Bible encourages sex in marriage and clearly says: “The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband.” . Sex is for married men and women and all religions support it. I don’t think there is any society that doesn’t believe in this.
The couple should try to be available to satisfy each other’s sexual urges to avoid temptation. Sex is not a food that we eat daily, in this sense men should not turn their wives into sex machines either. Most men who commit adultery always give that as an excuse. My wife is not always ready for me when I need her. You have to understand your wife and know when she will be in a better mood. Going outside to engage in extramarital sex is sin and God hates it. I wish all married men a happy married life and encourage all single men to try as much as possible to refrain from sexual intercourse until they are married in order to be at peace with their creator.