The 4 main elements of strong family relationships
Strong and solid family relationships do not happen by chance; there are critical elements that must be there for these family ties to develop. When a relationship is built on a firm foundation, it can withstand the setbacks of daily life and unexpected moments of chaos. Mutual respect, time for fun, constant encouragement, and communicated love are the four pillars of any strong relationship.
Lack of respect creates problems in any relationship. When it comes to adults, children need to remind themselves that respect is earned. Nagging, yelling, hitting, trash talking, doing things for children that they can do for themselves, following double standards are all disrespectful. (Ask yourself: Do you ask your children to knock on the door before entering your bedroom, but feel free to barge into theirs?) To establish mutual respect, we must be willing to show respect for our children. A great way to start is to minimize your negative talk. Talk to your children when the atmosphere is nice and lively.
Quality time is another key ingredient to building a healthy and happy relationship. It is not the quantity but the quality of the time you spend with your family members that is important. An hour of quality time is much more valuable than five hours of conflict. Spend time each day with each member of your family doing something together that both Enjoy – invest in the relationship! I know you’re busy, but your kids won’t be living with you forever! Savor the time you have with them NOW! In addition to individual time, I highly recommend that you schedule family fun each week, this should be a time to laugh, enjoy each other’s company, and create memories that will comfort you for years to come.
Believe in your family members so they can believe in themselves. Your children will especially benefit from your frequent encouragement. A cooperative relationship depends on how children feel about themselves and how they feel about you. So instead of focusing on your kids’ mistakes, point out what you like and appreciate about them. Describe specifically what behaviors you want to see repeated, give them a recipe for success!
Communicate clearly and regularly to your family the love you have for them. This will increase your children’s sense of security and strengthen any marriage! Let your family feel and hear your love. A gentle pat on the back, hugs, kisses, and ruffling hair are extremely important gestures. Your attitude also expresses your love. When you show mutual respect and allow your children to develop responsibility and independence and that is the deepest expression of love.