Are you a vanilla or chocolate lesbian?
When I’m in the Lady bars (it really should be just a bar … but I’m trying to stay hopefully), shopping at the grocery stores, drinking coffee downtown and looking at the beautiful women, one thing comes to mind. mind “Is she vanilla or chocolate?”
We all have our own individual sexual style and being with a woman is so wonderful in itself that it is difficult to describe or put into words the magic of lesbian love. There are an infinite number of ways that lesbians can have sex, and we have a variety of women to experience sex with, bisexuals, women who enjoy sex with other women (no labeling required), queer women, and transgender lesbians. Here are some reasons why loving a lady is so great:
Roles can be changed up, forward and backward. We can be dominant and in control (ripping her clothes against the wall) and then completely submissive and gentle (gentle kisses and caresses). Because of the way bodies are formed and created, we are free to do what our imagination allows. Playing, changing, and trying out different roles is empowering and exciting!
Of course, there is the big “O” for orgasm. Women do not need to recharge or stop, we can move on, it’s as if we put batteries! Non-stop sex sessions are common among lesbians compared to straight guys (one more reason we’re so special!).
So there is something about watching a woman cum that is unreal and incredibly sexy. It is a powerful surge of energy that can make the darkest days find the light.
The body of a woman is soft, so soft is where we find security and warmth. There is nothing on this planet that can compare to the beauty of a naked woman, artists throughout the centuries have tried to capture it but have never emulated it!
The best part is that sometimes you find a woman who is completely tied to your sexual stamina and who is able to explore and experience sex in an open and like-minded way.
However, with that said, some of us go for a more traditional, sweet and smooth (vanilla) approach, while other girls like hot, sexy, and hard (chocolate). What determines our sexual energy or expression of love? Is the way we strip and rub each other a representation of who we are?
Some people highly value who you are for how we do it, but in truth, how you have sex says a lot about how you feel about yourself. Show your confidence, maturity level, and intimacy skills. Do you like it with the lights on or off? Public or closed door? Backwards or missionary? Are you just a giver, a taker, or both? Are you happy with how you feel about being sexual or does it make you uncomfortable?
Depending on how you answer the questions, it will determine how you express yourself in bed and how the other lady will reflect you. Being physical can make us feel vulnerable and exposed, that is part of the process of connecting with another human being. The healthier your self image and confidence are, the more wonderful experiences you will attract, therefore great sex starts with yourself (and I mean it literally too … that’s the next article!).
Once you’ve got the hang of it, the rest is about having fun and expressing yourself. So what do you think you are, vanilla or chocolate? Personally, I’ve always leaned towards bittersweet dark chocolate!
Alex Karydi ~ The Lesbian Guru