For Men Only: 7 Simple Secrets To Keep The Fire Burning In Your Relationship Beyond Valentine’s Day
If this Valentine’s Day was typical, the flower and candy industry will make up for most of its financial losses on this day. They will sell all the gifts and teddy bears that the public can afford and, in some cases, cannot afford. However, what they won’t tell you is that by buying that candy, those flowers, that bear, you may in fact be destroying your relationship. It’s not that those things aren’t good, they are.
The problem in so many relationships occurs a few weeks after Valentine’s Day. On Valentine’s Day, every woman observes what her husband or boyfriend is truly capable of romantically. The problem is that most men do not intend to maintain that level of intensity of romance. Why? Well, many men like to feel that it would be unreasonable to do so. For those men, I offer 7 simple secrets to keep your relationship on fire beyond Valentine’s Day.
Simple Secret # 1 Ask the Everyday Question
Ask the average man if women talk too much and he will happily say “YES”. The truth is however; Most men don’t realize that a woman’s number two (2) need is communication. To keep the flame burning in a relationship, men must ask their wives about their day. So shut up and listen … and listen … and listen … and listen.
Simple Secret # 2 Answer Everyday Question
The next step is to be prepared to answer everyday questions. If communication is really a deep need for women, it means that men must have something to contribute to the conversation. Inevitably, after applying the simple secret n. 1, men will hear something like “and how was your day.” The temptation is to simply say “fine” or “fine”, however, to keep the flame burning, men must provide their wives with a detailed account of their day from the moment they wake up to the moment they return home. from work. This is difficult for the men I know, but it must be done.
Simple Secret # 3 Keep a steady date night
Listen gentlemen. No woman has ever dreamed of becoming a homemaker, something her husband takes for granted. She never wrote in her journal that her secret fantasy was never to see the inside of a good restaurant except on her birthday, Valentine’s Day, and her anniversary. To keep the flame burning in your relationship, you must establish with her and keep a regular “date night” each week. Work with her and identify a night when she will go out like she did a long time ago. No one else can participate and no one else can break the date and time set for the date night.
Simple Secret # 4 Put the kids to bed
All the women I know give an enormous amount of energy to their children, their husband and their work. A man must be sensitive to the demands that are constantly imposed on him. The average woman works between 15 and 17 hours a day. Consider the efforts to get the kids ready for school in the morning, work all day, then help the kids with their homework, cook and serve dinner, and then put the kids to bed at night, it is clear that this fact is true. To keep the relationship alive, at least once a week, take the initiative to prepare the children for bed. Bathe them, help them brush their teeth, read them a bedtime story, tuck them in, and pray with them. Note: Children may be surprised by your presence during bedtime, but don’t let that put you off. Do this at least two (2) times a week.
Simple Secret # 5 Invest in a bubble bath bottle
As you put the children to bed, what could your wife be doing? To keep the fire going, the men must prepare a nice hot bubble bath. This will keep her in the bathroom away from kids’ bedtime prep activities. Prepare the tub, add the bubbles and run the water. Don’t let her do any of this. This way, she can chase the kids around the house and get them to bed before she gets out of the bathtub. Note: An advanced secret is that after her bubble bath, offer her a massage.
Simple Secret # 6 Clean up after the kids
In my house we fold clothes, wash dishes, vacuum and make beds. Anything that is necessary to ease a wife’s burden must be done. Keep the flame burning. Find every opportunity to become a burden bearer for that special woman. See children messing up your room, don’t walk around it. Take the initiative to clean up any clutter before her. Practice unusual cleanliness and see the difference it makes in a relationship.
Simple secret n. 7: pay attention
True men’s romance has nothing to do with flowers or candy. In fact, true romance can be summed up in a simple sentence. For women, true romance simply means that, as a boyfriend or husband, you proactively meet their unspoken needs. Are you serious about keeping the fire burning in your relationship? Become a student of that woman. Are you worried about your weight? Why not invest in one of the many diet programs and participate with it? Discover again what you like and what you don’t like. Go to a restaurant and order a meal along with dessert for her without her being there to tell you what she wanted? When you were a child, what did you always want to be when you grew up? Pay close attention to it. Start listening and taking notes if necessary. Anticipate his needs, lighten his load and tell him how special he is. Do this and ensure that the fire will continue to burn long after Valentine’s Day.