How and why you need to initiate physical contact on a date
A key part of my game that was missing 4 years ago was the fact that I had no idea how important physical contact was. I remember sitting in a coffee shop, taking notes on the latest things I learned from continuously talking to hundreds of women everywhere. Suddenly something clicked. Imagine that you get along very well with a girl. The conversation is fluid, they look at each other a lot. But you don’t take the time to make some kind of physical contact shortly after meeting her. Instead, you wait until you sexually escalate. That will make her feel indecisive. She’s not used to being physical with you yet, and you’re already escalating sexually.
Realizing that made me adapt quickly. It became clear that making physical contact is really important. It doesn’t mean becoming the creepy, corny type. It means that you should not be afraid to request physical contact. Establishing this within the first few times you meet the girl is very important. Also, when you first meet a girl, the physical contact should be frequent, but brief (i.e. tell an animated story and lightly touch her arm briefly). As you develop a connection, the duration of physical contact should be longer (i.e., holding her hand). Here are some quick ways / tips I have used to have some physical contact the first few times I dated the girl.
Keep in mind that it is important to feel comfortable when you see the girl. If you try something posted below and are really nervous about it, and do it half-heartedly, it won’t help your game, it will damage your game. Having a confident and relaxed demeanor and climbing physically should be a breeze.
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-If you are walking next to the girl, push her hips to the side with yours playfully. If she backs up yours, use that moment to say something funny like “haha, you’re quite a fighter, aren’t you?”, And put your arm around her.
-If you are in an environment such as a coffee shop, and you are telling an animated story (using hand gestures), you can lightly / playfully touch her on the side of her arm.
-Use this as a kind of last resort. I’ll take it out from time to time, but avoid having it as your preferred option. Tell him about the study in which the character traits of many men were checked and compared to the length of their index and ring fingers. If the ring finger is longer than the index finger, there was a high exposure to testosterone in utero. Ask to see her hand and, while it is in yours, comment on whether or not she had high testosterone exposure in utero. You can even segment this to talk about her, talk about whether she’s aggressive, likes to lead, etc. Girls love to talk about themselves, you have the perfect opportunity to let her do it here.
-If you are sitting in front of her at a table, and reaching to touch her with your hand would look strange, bring your leg to hers under the table. Then after touching his leg to hers a few times, keep your leg in contact with hers. In the knee / calf area it is perfect. If she doesn’t move her leg, it usually means 2 things: she’s comfortable in your company, or she likes you.
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-Not available. What makes the initiation of physical contact seem strange is if it is coming from afar. When you touch the girl while sitting near her, it is subtle and natural. When you’re reaching out to touch her, her logical brain has some time to start analyzing what you’re doing, and anyone sitting next to you finds it uncomfortable.
-Don’t look where you’re touching her. If you tap her arm while talking to her, make strong eye contact.
-If you are telling her a story and using animated hand gestures, do not maintain physical contact with her for more than a few seconds, LIKE MORE.
Now a disclaimer: use the indicators above as guidelines. There are just a few examples that I am using to illustrate how I initiate physical contact. Ideally, you should find your own way of doing this. The key is to make it feel comfortable and natural for you. Some unique situations require a different approach. The above is mainly aimed at the first times you see the girl and you are establishing both an emotional and a physical connection. Once they are more comfortable with each other (and a certain level of kissing / sexual escalation occurs), you can make physical contact whenever you deem it necessary.