Masculinity: Does the childhood of some women prepare them to become too masculine?

In recent years it has been said that men have become more feminine and women more masculine. Naturally, this is a generalization and does not apply to all men / women in the western world.

And when something like this is said, it could simply be an observation that someone made, or it could be something that is regretted. One way to see how the behavior of men and women has changed would be to say that it is a good thing.

Increase

The reason for this is that women have started to embrace their masculine nature more, having rejected this side of them for a long time; while men have started to embrace their feminine nature, having rejected this side of them for a long time. Because of this, it could be said that both genders are becoming more and more balanced.

If both men and women were not made of masculine and feminine energy, this would not be possible. But as they are, it is perfectly normal for them to become more balanced human beings.

At the key point

However, this does not mean that all human beings on the planet are fifty percent female and fifty percent male. There will be men and women who have more on one side than the other.

What this means then is that there will be some men who will be more feminine than masculine and some women who will be more masculine than feminine. This is how it is and it is neither good nor bad.

A different perspective

Another view that might be raised is that some men have gone too far and so have some women. Then a man will have embraced more of his feminine nature, but he will have lost too much of his masculine nature.

Similarly, a woman will have embraced more of her masculine nature, but will have lost too much of her feminine nature. It is then as if one extreme of the past has been replaced by another extreme of the present.

Lots of exposure

A lot has been said about men being overly feminine, with the word ‘man on top’ being used often and there are all kinds of books written for ‘nice guys’. A man who is calm and does not stand his ground is seldom respected by men or women.

You can be seen as someone who lacks the guts and therefore needs to start asserting yourself. There will be a lot of feminine energy within him, but not a lot of masculine energy.

A different story

When it comes to women who are too masculine, something is less likely to be said about how they express themselves. In general, the focus is generally on the problems that men have.

In addition to some men being seen as too feminine, some men can also be seen as too masculine. So a man can be seen as a problem no matter what part of himself he embraces.

Out of balance

So a woman may have the inclination to appear aggressive, be completely out of touch with her softer side, and are unlikely to be told that she needs to be a woman or something similar. Still, while it may be normal for a woman to display herself this way, it will be the kind of behavior that repels a lot of people.

Women who are in touch with their feminine nature will likely find their energy toxic, and men who are in touch with their masculine nature may also feel the need to keep their distance.

Conflict

Such a man will realize that such a woman is not going to complement who he is; the only thing that would happen is that he would have someone in his life with whom he would be in constant battle. Since the woman has more or less rejected her feminine nature, it would not be possible for her two energies to harmonize with each other.

It would be like trying to lead someone through a dance routine, only for them to try to lead all the time; it just wouldn’t work. The woman will not want to give herself to a man and allow him to lead; he will want to control man and direct everything.

What’s the matter?

Therefore, if a woman has practically lost touch with her nurturing ability, softness, and supportive element, among other things, it is likely that she does not feel confident enough to express these traits and is vulnerable. The way he is, with his aggression and coldness, for example, is a way to protect himself.

Ultimately, for a woman to embrace her femininity and then express this side of her nature, she needs to feel confident enough to do so. The question is: why wouldn’t a woman feel confident enough to express this side of her nature?

Way back

What this may show is that she was raised in an environment where it was not safe for her to just be and express her softer side. Perhaps her father was not around or if he was close, he may have abused her.

The upshot of this is that the strong male figure she needed to protect her and validate her femininity would not have been available. Therefore, as a way to protect his vulnerability, he would have disconnected from this part of his nature and developed a hard shell in the process.

Repeat compulsion

The problem is that since she still carries all this pain inside her, chances are she will continue to recreate experiences that will have a lot in common with what happened during her early years. These experiences will validate her belief that it is not safe for her to be vulnerable and to trust others.

It is unlikely that it would be very satisfying for her to live life this way, but this is likely to be what is familiar to her, and what will be familiar to her is what is classified as what is safe for the ego mind. Your life will likely only change if you heal your inner wounds.

Awareness

If a woman can relate to this and wants to change her life, she may need to seek outside support. This can be done with the help of a therapist or healer.