Teaching Independence: Building Confidence and Self-Reliance in Your Child

Is so easy. We all do it from time to time. We love them

a lot of. We just want to protect our children from anything.

that could damage them. So we stretch out our arm and we meet

they in. We do their chores for them so they can enjoy some

more gaming moments. But these elections have consequences.

When you protect your children or do what they can do for

their children themselves become too dependent. Worse,

they do not challenge themselves or develop self-confidence.

Learning self-reliance and independence comes early. But

it doesn’t happen without your help. You need to support your

children teaching them to be independent. In this article

You will learn to promote the independence of your children.

how and when to let them do things on their own; to do

when they need help; and what to do when things go wrong.

Let’s meet julie

Julie is six years old. She is shy and indecisive and not

have close friends. Julie’s teacher, Mrs Sterling,

often keeps Julie company at school and gives her more

help. Lady. Sterling doesn’t care. Julie is so quiet and

well-behaved girl.

Then at a parent teacher meeting, Mrs Sterling Endorsements

Julie’s behavior with her parents. She wasn’t always like this

they say. Julie was a wild baby and she got into everything. TO

At the time, Julie’s parents were concerned for her safety, so

They kept Julie in her playpen, put doors all over the

home and even put her on a leash sometimes. For your safety

they added.

Finally, Julie came out of her wanderlust and became a

educated girl. But maybe we exaggerate it, says Julie

fathers. Now she is not interested in doing anything to him.

own self. She just hopes we will advise her.

Lady. Sterling suggests they give Julie a light

homework – something you could easily accomplish. Maybe that will

help Julie feel in charge and she’s already

permission to do a good job on your own. Julie’s parents

agree.

Within a few weeks, Mrs. Sterling realizes that Julie is looking for

less help and spend longer periods with each other

kids. Then one day, in an explosion of pride, Julie tells Mrs.

Sterling the correct way to empty a dishwasher and store it

dishes. Lady. Sterling thanks Julie for the lesson and

smiles as Julie runs off to play with her new friends.

Now let’s take a look at how you can teach your kids

independence, self-reliance and the joy of confidence.

Cheer up

Parents must support their children in their natural way.

search for independence. A great way to do this is with

chores. Most children are in a hurry to grow up; Helping

around the house teaches them responsibilities and shows them

they can make a difference through their actions.

But be careful. Your child can feel if you are worried

about their abilities. Let them know that it is helpful for

Get them involved and give them jobs they can do.

If you are concerned about your safety or performance

give them another job.

Tolerance

Children who are allowed to do things for themselves develop

self-sufficiency. At first, leave your child alone for little ones

periods. They will learn that they are safe and can do things.

without you in the same room. Then friends teach them

to deal with different situations. Homework, hobbies and

homework also develops independence. Here are some methods to

help your children be successful on their own.

o Model self-reliance in your own behavior.

o Show them step by step how to do a project.

o Make sure they know the goal so they are on the right track.

address.

o Make the project fun! Time it. Do it the other way around. Dance.

Make a game out of it.

o Set deadlines for a project, but let your children

complete it your way.

o Let them do the work in parts so they are successful each time.

they work on it.

o Let them fail. Let your children try things their way and

learn from failure.

o When they forget to do a task, teach them the

consequences, but don’t do the work for them.

Support for

Know when to step in and help your child with a project

it can be challenging. Here are some guidelines, but keep in mind

how your children solve problems and support them

adequately.

o Step in to support your children when their focus is

unsafe, unhealthy or harmful.

o In general, be available to help, but encourage

them to work through any obstacles they encounter on their own.

o If intervenes, emphasize what is working and then

Suggest ways to do the job better or consider doing the job.

together.

o If the job is done well enough … leave it alone.

Perfection is not the goal. Unless the job is to be

corrected for a very good reason congratulate your children

in your efforts. And congratulate them often.

Learn from mistakes

Part of being self-reliant means learning from mistakes. Are here

some tips to help your kids keep going when things go

wrong.

o Tell them that everyone makes mistakes.

o Tell them that it is effort that counts.

o Tell them you love them no matter what.

o Point out what they did well.

o Ask them how they could do it differently.

o Encourage them to do the work using their new approach.

Protecting your children from harm is vital, but also

important to allow them to explore, participate in life and

even to fail. This is how they learn to be self-reliant. In it

In the long term, if children are not taught independence, they lack

self-confidence, and that is very difficult to learn later

We.

Encourages the independence of your children. Teach them to do

things on their own and support them as they learn. Maybe

one of the best gifts you can teach your children is

learn from their mistakes and fill their lives with it

the confidence and self-reliance necessary to be successful.