Teen Anger Management: This Is War, You Gotta Think About The Little Brats
Who are some of the best people to learn about teen anger management? Lawyers. Don’t you love to hate them? I believe that a lawyer is the most despised profession on the planet. I never understood why, but whatever you think about lawyers, I know one thing, they can put you in your shoes, with wit and verbal skills. And every lawyer knows a rule that should never be broken. “Never ask a question you don’t know the answer to.”
This is what parents should embrace when it comes to their resourceful teens. Teenagers are good at arguing. Teenagers will take advantage of any opportunity to argue. They are good at it because they are on the front lines of the argument war every day (High School). Parents forget how to argue after they leave adolescence because most adults develop humility around the age of 22. Parents, it’s time to get your mojo back.
Going back to teen anger management and “Never ask a question you don’t know the answers to,” prepare your question before you get into a verbal battle with your teen, because face it, it feels like war when you’re in the fog of it. . What questions should you prepare for? I don’t know, only individuals can answer that. Every situation is different, so this is something you will have to look deep into yourself to figure out. I know some questions I prepared myself for when confronting my teenage daughter. Last week I asked…
“Did you understand your questions about logarithms?” If she says yes, and I know she will, my next question she had already prepared me to say “Can you explain it to me?”. This will calm her down. Why? Because she loves math, and any math-related question will bring her joyfully to life. Once her defenses are down, I can answer deeper, more concerned questions.
This doesn’t work with his seventeen-year-old younger sister. With her my questions will be more specific. With her he has to be more artistic (music, makeup) “Did you learn your new band piece perfectly?” If she answers “yes”…I know she will say yes. My next question will be “Will you play it for me?” She will jump into her bedroom with the biggest smile; she will come back to beautifully play a melody on her flute. And once again I’ve hit her in a weak spot. Immediately after this she will tell me anything. When I learned this easy-to-use teen anger management technique, I gained clarity.