Why do men not see you in “Like this”
Do you know why men don’t see you in “like this”? Because you’re too “charming”.
And no, it’s not bad to be a lovely girl. Ok, first let’s start with the definition of the word “Charming”. Some examples of “Lovely” are when the guy asks you where you want to go and you respond by saying “I’ll go where you want to go.”
Or when you just nod your head and say YES to everything the guy says. The problem with being too beautiful is that men ARE NOT ATTRACTED to women who are too beautiful.
You can argue with me that most men want their women to be submissive. They want their women to follow what they say and follow any decision they make without expressing their opinion…
This may be true for a minority of men, but more often than not, men want someone who can CHALLENGE them. Someone who really has a brain and who can carry on a conversation.
Another problem that many women also have is that they become “lovely” girls after a period of time. They initially start off as funny, unpredictable and challenging…
Then slowly and steadily they turn into this really “lovely” almost robotic girl after a period of time. When this happens, the attraction simply wears off. You will feel as if you are surrounded by oceans of boredom.
He’ll probably start telling his friends, “You know what? She’s just my ideal woman. She’s beautiful, caring, sweet, so easy to love. It’s just…I’m BORED.” Reality sucks, right?
Once the woman ends up being too “charming” for her own good, the usual ending is that the man leaves and the woman sits on the sidewalk wondering what the hell she did wrong.
So how do you AVOID being too “charming”?
Simple, be ASSERTIVE.
Being assertive doesn’t necessarily mean you have to get in someone’s face like an umbrella wielding Britney Spears screaming and dressing up to get what you want. That is hostility and violent behavior. You’ll probably have him running the other way faster than you can say “Wow, I did it again!”
Men want assertive women, not AGGRESSIVE or violent.
Too loud or too aggressive is a big turn off, so don’t even go there. Yes, a man won’t be attracted to a woman who always looks vulnerable and asks for help, but he won’t be attracted to a woman who comes across as too strong either. Therefore, he must strike a balance where you can come to a healthy compromise within yourself.
Keep in mind that while men want their women to be assertive, they also want to feel NECESSARY. He would still want to feel like he has space in your life.