Here’s why you shouldn’t call a man you’re dating, ever!

Number one on the list of phone call rules for women is to keep in mind that men don’t view phone calls the same way women do. Women love to be in contact with a man they are interested in, some men feel the same, but most do not.

It is rare to find a man who finds long or frequent calls attractive. I know this because all the men I’ve been dating who have an interest in displaying the exact same attitude re. phone calls and text messages.

They will just take your time period. Don’t be discouraged if a day or two goes by and you don’t hear from the man of your life.

I have three rules about calling a man you’re dating until you get exclusive or until you’re sure where he stands on his feelings toward you and your relationship and his opinion on talking on the phone:

1. Don’t call him.

2. Don’t call him.

3. Don’t call him.

You have no reason to call him at all. None. Of course, there are times when you may need to call like in emergencies and no one else is available to help you. Either he is waiting for me to call or he wants me to call from time to time (which means from time to time). Or you are on your way to meet him and need a quick confirmation of something. Other than that, he knows where to find you when he wants to talk.

Men really take phone calls and texts seriously. They use your behavior regarding these things to make certain assumptions about you. For example, if you constantly call the men you date and don’t wait for them to make the first move, some of those men will label you as too aggressive and maybe even bordering on desperate.

There are three reasons why you should not initiate the call:

1. Most men talk a lot less than we do and are generally not very good at multitasking. So when you call out of the blue and he’s in the middle of something, he can ignore the call and consider it a nuisance or he can answer it, but it won’t be a positive experience that makes you feel good (because he has to cut you off, he’s distracted, etc. ..).

2. When you initiate calls, you are confident that you are in the position/mood to talk, and as such, it gives you the positive connection experience you want.

3. You don’t want to create a precedence that you initiate all the contacts all the time and he never does that. When a man feels like you’re going to get the job done anyway, he’ll stop trying, and in the process, he’ll feel like you’re in charge and his focus is a little off now.

Remember, men want to chase you, not the other way around. You can say, “But this is 2011!” Right, apart from the fact that they haven’t evolved much since 1911, or 1811, or even 1511.

You should always remember that men and women view phone calls, emails, and text messages very differently. If you make the mistake of calling too often, at the wrong time, or before he’s ready to hear from you, you can turn it off. Every woman needs to know all about calling men if she wants to stay in control of her relationship. Women inadvertently ruin their chances of a future with a man because they are too eager to hear from him. Don’t let this happen to you.